Permission for Pleasure

Cindy Scharkey

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Warm sex education without the shame.

The gist

Permission for Pleasure treats sexual health as something people can learn, revisit, and talk about with care. Cindy Sharkey guides conversations on pleasure, trauma, long-term intimacy, orgasm, body change, and everyday health with a steady, practical tone.

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About Permission for Pleasure

Permission for Pleasure is a sexual wellness show with a steady, teaching-first shape. Cindy Sharkey approaches intimate subjects as learnable rather than mysterious. The show’s center is women’s pleasure, but its range is wider than a single category. Episodes move through orgasm education, multi-orgasmic capacity, slow pleasure, long-term desire, flirting, and the daily habits that help couples keep talking. It is practical. It is also careful with shame. Conversations about addiction, trauma, sober sex, purity culture, pornography, and body image are framed with attention to how people actually heal, relearn, and communicate. The show often starts with a plain question, then opens that question into a larger pattern. A discussion of orgasm becomes a lesson in misinformation, pressure, and bodily self-knowledge. A conversation about long-term couples becomes a look at resilience, aging, risk, safety, and the need to revisit assumptions with a partner. A bone health episode widens the frame again, treating strength, flexibility, protein, plants, and aging as part of feeling well in a body. Guests do much of the explanatory work, while Sharkey keeps the conversation grounded and accessible. The tone is sex-positive without being showy. It can be explicit in subject matter, but its editorial function is education rather than provocation. Solo episodes add a lighter format, including bedroom questions meant to spark conversation and play. The strongest throughline is permission: permission to learn late, ask plainly, change over time, and notice pleasure in small moments. Listeners looking for a polished advice show may find it more conversational than packaged. That is part of its usefulness. It feels like a knowledgeable guide making room for complex private questions to become ordinary, spoken, and workable.

Made for: Permission for Pleasure is for adults seeking clear, sex-positive education around women’s pleasure, relationship intimacy, body change, and shame. It especially suits listeners who prefer practical guidance delivered with warmth rather than shock value.

What sets it apart: The show connects sexual wellness to recovery, aging, communication, health, and everyday pleasure instead of treating intimacy as a narrow performance topic. Its strength is translation: clinical or emotionally loaded ideas become plain language and real scenarios.

In their own words

A podcast to educate and equip women with the information and confidence they need to express, experience and enjoy their sexuality. Cindy Scharkey RN, BSN, brings her 35+ years of experience as a healthcare professional to open the doors to healthy conversations about sex. This is a community where you can listen and learn to give yourself permission for pleasure. Visit www.cindyscharkey.com for educational blogs and newsletter.

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Cindy Scharkey makes awkward bedroom questions feel discussable, practical, and considerably less lonely.

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  • language for talking with your partner about desire without turning intimacy into a performance review
  • permission to rebuild sexual confidence after trauma or addiction without pretending progress follows a tidy timeline
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Healthy Sexuality After Addiction and TraumaMar 25, 2026

A careful look at relearning desire after sobriety and trauma.

The episode handles recovery, trauma, and intimacy with patience. It stays with the awkward middle of relearning attraction, desire, and intent instead of pushing toward a neat finish, and it is plain about how sobriety can change the script.

Keeping it Hot in Long-Term RelationshipsJan 28, 2026

A warm, practical look at how desire can evolve in a lasting relationship.

Permission for Pleasure keeps its focus on long running couples and treats intimacy as something that changes with time. Cindy Sharkey and Dr.

Better Bones: How to Lower the Risk of OsteoporosisDec 24, 2025

A plainspoken bone-health conversation that keeps the science close to daily life.

Bone health is treated as a system here, not a single nutrient problem. The discussion links bones to immune function, hormones, blood, and muscle, then keeps circling back to the everyday choices that shape all of it.

Erotic Personas with Nicholas Velotta of AryaMar 5, 2025

A practical conversation about naming desire and making it easier to discuss.

Permission for Pleasure follows a conversation about erotic personas and eroticism with Nicholas Vallada, and it treats desire as something partners can name and discuss instead of leaving it vague.

Podcasts like Permission for Pleasure

Episodes

  1. 1

    Hidden Desire Killers in Your Relationship

    Sep 23, 2026·19m
  2. 2

    How Your Attachment Style Influences Your Sex Life

    Sep 9, 2026·40m
  3. 3

    Own Your Pleasure

    Aug 26, 2026·35m
  4. 4

    Variety is an Aphrodisiac

    Aug 12, 2026·9m
  5. 5

    Painful Periods, Pelvic Pain and Endometriosis

    Jul 29, 2026·39m
  6. 6

    Try This Variation on Missionary

    Jul 15, 2026·6m
  7. 7

    Self-pleasure and Women's Wellness

    Jul 1, 2026·26m
  8. 8

    Your Erotic Potential and Cervical Orgasms

    Hidden gem

    Cindy Sharkey interviews psychotherapist and sex therapist Carly Mountain about her book Untamed Pleasure, Unleash Your True Erotic Nature.

    Jun 17, 2026·38m·2 clips
  9. 9

    Vanilla Sex with a Cherry on Top

    Jun 3, 2026·9m
  10. 10

    An Invitation to Real Self-Care

    Licensed therapist Jen Hershey tells host Cindy Sharkey that self-care can work as "re-mothering," in which a future self from five or ten years ahead asks what you need and cares for you.

    May 20, 2026·40m·2 clips
  11. 11

    Finger Techniques

    May 6, 2026·11m
  12. 12

    What Influences Your Arousal

    Apr 22, 2026·14m
  13. 13

    Vibrators: Why They Work and How to Choose One

    Apr 8, 2026·10m
  14. 14

    Healthy Sexuality After Addiction and Trauma

    Hidden gem

    Sharkey opens with a content note for listeners who may be activated by substance use or sexual trauma.

    Mar 25, 2026·42m·2 clips
  15. 15

    Education and Tips for Multiple Orgasms

    This episode provides education and tips on multi-orgasmic women, discussing their capacity for multiple orgasms in a single sexual session.

    Mar 11, 2026·13m
  16. 16

    Kink Curious with Gigi Engle

    Feb 25, 2026·47m
  17. 17

    Five Questions for Couples

    Feb 11, 2026·11m
  18. 18

    Keeping it Hot in Long-Term Relationships

    Hidden gem

    Cindy Sharkey starts with a direct question about how couples can re-eroticize a relationship when both people still need autonomy.

    Jan 28, 2026·37m·2 clips
  19. 19

    Heated Rivalry’s Intimacy Coordinator Chala Hunter

    Jan 14, 2026·45m
  20. 20

    Season Six: Let's Get Curious

    Jan 7, 2026·6m
  21. 21

    Better Bones: How to Lower the Risk of Osteoporosis

    Hidden gem

    Cindy Sharkey opens with a holiday greeting and a warm entry into a conversation about bone health.

    Dec 24, 2025·44m·2 clips
  22. 22

    Sex and the Myths of Motherhood

    Dec 10, 2025·23m
  23. 23

    Real Talk About Birth, Postpartum, and Parenthood

    Nov 26, 2025·26m
  24. 24

    Explore New Ways to Touch

    Nov 12, 2025·39m
  25. 25

    Would You Rather : Sex Edition

    Host Cindy Scharkey introduces a 'Would You Rather' game with 20 questions to spark fun and curiosity about sex, encouraging listeners to explore their desires with themselves or a partner.

    Oct 29, 2025·6m
  26. 26

    Purity Culture's Effect on Men

    Host Cindy Scharkey interviews Erica Smith about the impact of purity culture on men and their partners, covering shame, pornography, and body image.

    Oct 15, 2025·43m
  27. 27

    What Women Need to Orgasm

    Host Cindy Scharkey interviews sex therapist Dr.

    Oct 1, 2025·30m
  28. 28

    Embodiment and Pleasure with Dr. Hillary McBride

    Sep 17, 2025·33m
  29. 29

    Slippery When Wet: Shower Sex for Beginners

    Sep 3, 2025·7m
  30. 30

    Women, ADHD and Sex

    Aug 20, 2025·55m
  31. 31

    Sex Over 50: Tips, Tools and Desire

    Aug 6, 2025·16m
  32. 32

    Sex Over 50

    Jul 23, 2025·11m
  33. 33

    Redefine Sexy

    Jul 9, 2025·37m
  34. 34

    Sexual Self Exploration

    Jun 25, 2025·8m
  35. 35

    Sexual Adaptation and Aids for All Bodies

    Jun 11, 2025·40m
  36. 36

    What She Wants You to Know About Oral

    May 28, 2025·17m
  37. 37

    Slow Pleasure with Euphemia Russell

    Host Cindy Scharkey interviews Euphemia Russell about slow pleasure and exploring one's pleasure spectrum.

    May 14, 2025·47m
  38. 38

    Just How Much Does Frequency Matter?

    Apr 30, 2025·34m
  39. 39

    Poetry and Pleasure

    Apr 16, 2025·35m
  40. 40

    Community Questions: Semen, Pre-cum and Wet Dreams

    Apr 2, 2025·10m
  41. 41

    Level Up Your Pleasure With 20 Types of Orgasms

    Mar 19, 2025·41m
  42. 42

    Erotic Personas with Nicholas Velotta of Arya

    Hidden gem

    Cindy Sharkey welcomes Nicholas Vallada to talk about erotic personas and eroticism.

    Mar 5, 2025·43m·3 clips
  43. 43

    Sexual Wellness and Pleasure Wish List

    Host Cindy Scharkey interviews entrepreneur Michael Morrison about her 'Girls Girl List' of sexual wellness and pleasure products, discussing their personal journeys and the role of upbringing in understanding sexuality.

    Feb 19, 2025·50m
  44. 44

    Gifts for Your Valentine, Galentine and Yourself

    Feb 5, 2025·14m
  45. 45

    How Anxiety and Perfectionism Show Up in Your Sex Life

    Host Cindy Scharkey interviews therapist Caitlin Harrison about religious trauma, sex, and perfectionism recovery.

    Jan 22, 2025·43m
  46. 46

    Season Five: Launching the book I wrote for YOU!

    Jan 8, 2025·9m
  47. 47

    Two Ways Affection Can Deepen Your Connection

    Dec 25, 2024·11m
  48. 48

    *Sneak Peak* Permission for Pleasure the BOOK!

    Dec 11, 2024·12m
  49. 49

    How Curiosity Fuels Desire

    Cindy Scharkey interviews Dr.

    Nov 27, 2024·39m
  50. 50

    Vaginal Estrogen, Moisturizers, and Lube for Sex

    Nov 13, 2024·9m
  51. 51

    Connecting With Our Bodies and Nervous Systems for More Pleasurable Sex

    Oct 30, 2024·48m
  52. 52

    Everything We Get Wrong About Initiation

    Host Cindy Scharkey discusses sexual initiation with guests Vanessa and Xander Marin, exploring common mistakes and better approaches.

    Oct 16, 2024·42m
  53. 53

    When the Problematic People Are the Ones We Love with Brit Barron

    Oct 2, 2024·31m
  54. 54

    Free Up Mental Space and Improve Your Sex Life

    This episode explores how mental load affects women's sexual desire and features an interview with relationship expert Dr.

    Sep 18, 2024·36m
  55. 55

    Practices for Positive Relationships

    Cindy Scharkey discusses positive relationships with Dr.

    Sep 4, 2024·43m
  56. 56

    Bedroom Games: Fun and Flirty Ideas

    Aug 21, 2024·10m
  57. 57

    The Rise in Rough Sex

    Aug 7, 2024·40m
  58. 58

    Permission to grieve

    Jul 24, 2024·4m
  59. 59

    Reconnecting to Yourself and to Your Body

    Host Cindy Scharkey shares an interview from the Special Needs Mom podcast about sensuality and reconnecting to yourself.

    Jul 10, 2024·50m
  60. 60

    Three Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

    Jun 26, 2024·14m
  61. 61

    Embracing Your Desire

    Jun 12, 2024·50m
  62. 62

    Do women ejaculate? What is squirting?

    May 29, 2024·12m
  63. 63

    What Are You Saying With Your Touch?

    May 15, 2024·24m
  64. 64

    What do you call your genitals?

    May 1, 2024·33m
  65. 65

    Turn Up the Volume on Your Sex Life

    Apr 17, 2024·6m
  66. 66

    Masturbation - Let's dig in

    Apr 3, 2024·44m
  67. 67

    Tips From My Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist

    Mar 20, 2024·37m
  68. 68

    Doggy Style, Kivin Method and Why Do I Bleed After Sex

    Mar 6, 2024·11m
  69. 69

    Sexuality With a Philosophical Lens

    Feb 21, 2024·44m
  70. 70

    Erectile Dissatisfaction vs Erectile Dysfunction

    Feb 7, 2024·13m
  71. 71

    Spicy Audio Stories with Gina of Dipsea

    Jan 24, 2024·32m
  72. 72

    Conversation Starters to Help You Talk About Sex With a Partner

    Jan 10, 2024·10m
  73. 73

    Untangling Sexual Shame

    Dec 27, 2023·40m
  74. 74

    Perimenopause 101: Treatment Options

    Dec 13, 2023·26m
  75. 75

    Perimenopause 101: Hormones and Symptoms

    Nov 29, 2023·34m
  76. 76

    Confidence is Sexy

    Nov 15, 2023·45m
  77. 77

    Living With Chronic Pain: A Conversation With Ruthie Lindsey

    Nov 1, 2023·51m
  78. 78

    Less Faking - More Pleasure

    Oct 18, 2023·17m
  79. 79

    Medications and Your Sex Life

    Oct 2, 2023·11m
  80. 80

    Unlearning Body Shame and Understanding Consent

    Sep 20, 2023·28m
  81. 81

    Coming Home to Yourself: A Conversation With Arielle Estoria

    Sep 6, 2023·39m
  82. 82

    Temperature Play

    Aug 23, 2023·7m
  83. 83

    Sexual Reset for Midlife Women

    Aug 9, 2023·34m
  84. 84

    Toys, Fantasy and Play in the Bedroom

    Jul 26, 2023·36m
  85. 85

    Sex Ed For All Abilities

    Jul 12, 2023·38m
  86. 86

    Get Out Of Your Foreplay Rut

    Jun 28, 2023·31m
  87. 87

    Oral Sex for Women

    Jun 14, 2023·17m
  88. 88

    Can Men Be Multi-Orgasmic?

    May 31, 2023·26m
  89. 89

    How Toxic Masculinity Can Invade Your Sex Life

    May 17, 2023·36m
  90. 90

    Do You Ever Think Your Sex Life Is Broken?

    May 3, 2023·38m
  91. 91

    Why Is It Easier To Orgasm By Myself?

    Apr 19, 2023·14m
  92. 92

    Orgasm Is A Big Brain Event

    Apr 5, 2023·36m
  93. 93

    The Pleasure Crisis and Why Good Sex Matters

    Mar 22, 2023·36m
  94. 94

    Shifting The Fertility Narrative From Me To We

    Mar 8, 2023·37m
  95. 95

    Positions with Props

    Feb 22, 2023·10m
  96. 96

    The Growing Mental Health Crisis Of Our Girls

    Feb 8, 2023·45m
  97. 97

    Misconceptions Men Believe About Sex

    Jan 25, 2023·45m
  98. 98

    Welcome to Season Three

    Jan 11, 2023·2m
  99. 99

    Exploring Erogenous Zones

    Dec 28, 2022·7m
  100. 100

    Sexual Communication

    Dec 14, 2022·16m
  101. 101

    Evolving Out Of Purity Culture

    Nov 30, 2022·41m
  102. 102

    'How To Build A Sex Room' - Taylor's journey

    Nov 16, 2022·41m
  103. 103

    Sexy in Survival Mode

    Nov 2, 2022·50m
  104. 104

    Sexify Your Space: Tips for a Better Bedroom

    Oct 19, 2022·10m
  105. 105

    Less Shame - More Sex Ed

    Oct 5, 2022·26m
  106. 106

    Sex, Postpartum, and Breastfeeding

    Sep 21, 2022·41m
  107. 107

    Sex and Pregnancy

    Sep 7, 2022·25m
  108. 108

    Learning to Listen to Your Body

    Aug 24, 2022·34m
  109. 109

    Pleasure Techniques

    Aug 10, 2022·18m
  110. 110

    Want Better Sex? Ask Yourself These Questions

    Jul 27, 2022·31m
  111. 111

    Why We Need to Talk About Pornography - Part 1

    Jul 13, 2022·24m
  112. 112

    Why We Need to Talk About Pornography - Part 2

    Jul 13, 2022·26m
  113. 113

    Let’s Go Girls: Jessica from New York

    Jun 29, 2022·32m
  114. 114

    Community Questions: Arousal, Role Play & Condoms

    Jun 15, 2022·12m
  115. 115

    Stretched-Out Vaginas and Other Myths

    Jun 1, 2022·30m
  116. 116

    Finding Intimacy During Infertility or After Miscarriage

    May 18, 2022·34m
  117. 117

    Talking About Sex (When Things Aren’t Great) - Part 1

    May 4, 2022·24m
  118. 118

    Talking About Sex (When Things Aren’t Great) - Part 2

    May 4, 2022·23m
  119. 119

    Foreplay 101

    Apr 20, 2022·12m
  120. 120

    Supporting Survivors

    Apr 6, 2022·31m
  121. 121

    Community Questions: Vibrators, Edging & Anal Sex

    Mar 23, 2022·29m
  122. 122

    Let’s Go Girls: Heather from the South Bay

    Mar 9, 2022·49m
  123. 123

    Reclaim Your Arousal Mindset

    Feb 23, 2022·44m
  124. 124

    Sex on the Brain

    Feb 9, 2022·13m
  125. 125

    The Truth About Desire: Part 2

    Jan 26, 2022·22m
  126. 126

    The Truth About Desire: Part 1

    Jan 26, 2022·23m
  127. 127

    Why Sex Ed Really Matters

    Jan 12, 2022·35m
  128. 128

    Welcome to Season Two!

    Jan 5, 2022·3m
  129. 129

    The Big O Remix: Bonus Episode

    Dec 29, 2021·17m
  130. 130

    Quickies and Kisses

    Dec 15, 2021·11m
  131. 131

    Love Languages, Dates & Gift Ideas

    Dec 1, 2021·24m
  132. 132

    Pleasure after Trauma

    Nov 17, 2021·34m
  133. 133

    Relieving Mental Load

    Nov 3, 2021·40m
  134. 134

    G Marks the Spot

    Oct 20, 2021·9m
  135. 135

    Your Body After Baby

    Oct 6, 2021·39m
  136. 136

    Dating Your Body

    Sep 22, 2021·38m
  137. 137

    Let’s Go Girls: Maddie from London

    Sep 8, 2021·33m
  138. 138

    Practicing Flow State Sex

    Aug 25, 2021·32m
  139. 139

    Yay for 5K! A Surprise Pleasure Exercise

    Aug 18, 2021·7m
  140. 140

    Sexual Scripts

    Aug 11, 2021·35m
  141. 141

    Lube Lube Lube

    Jul 28, 2021·14m
  142. 142

    Myth-Busting: Part One

    Jul 14, 2021·28m
  143. 143

    Myth-Busting: Part Two

    Jul 14, 2021·20m
  144. 144

    Let’s Go Girls: Hailey from Pasadena

    Jun 30, 2021·38m
  145. 145

    Let’s Talk Orgasms

    Jun 16, 2021·32m
  146. 146

    What Pelvic Health Has To Do With Painful Sex

    Jun 2, 2021·41m
  147. 147

    Pain and Sex

    May 19, 2021·13m
  148. 148

    Communication, Couples and Sex (Part One)

    May 5, 2021·25m
  149. 149

    Communication, Couples and Sex (Part Two)

    May 5, 2021·32m
  150. 150

    Mother / Daughter Interview: Healthy Conversations About Sex

    Apr 21, 2021·25m
  151. 151

    Partner Sexual Desire Discrepancies

    Apr 7, 2021·35m
  152. 152

    Understanding Your Desire Style For Better Sex

    Mar 24, 2021·10m
  153. 153

    Cliteracy

    Mar 10, 2021·27m
  154. 154

    The Key To Female Pleasure

    Mar 3, 2021·11m
  155. 155

    Permission for Pleasure: Pilot

    Mar 1, 2021·1m