Dr Corey and Pam Allan
500 episodes
Straight-forward, honest conversations and actions to create a life and marriage fully alive!
Based on 6 episodes we listened to · August 2026
Sexy Marriage Radio gives married listeners a frank, practical vocabulary for desire, intimacy, conflict, and self-understanding.
Sexy Marriage Radio belongs on the Relationships shelf for the way it treats marriage as lived experience, not theory. The show works through desire differences, sexual gridlock, obligation, resentment, pleasure, faith, courage, and the awkward distance that can open between…
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A direct, practical marriage conversation that moves from summer disruption into concrete ways couples can think about connection and sex.
This episode stays close to marriage in plain terms, with an eye on hope through awareness, connection, and small practical changes. It starts in the middle of summer scheduling chaos and family disruption, then moves into sex and the details that can matter there: lubrication,…
A live quiz that turns sex trivia into candid, marriage-level conversation.
Sexy Marriage Radio uses a live session from the 2025 Sexy Marriage Giddyway to build a playful group quiz around sex, sexuality, anatomy, biology, and history, with Pam and the co-host guiding the room through guesses, corrections, and audience back-and-forth.
Love languages are treated as a mirror for motive, not a shortcut.
The discussion treats love languages less like a compatibility test and more like a way to look at motive. It keeps circling back to the idea of learning a spouse's habits, paying attention to what actually lands, and speaking in a way that reaches the heart.
A grounded conversation about moving from external control to internal safety.
Marni Battista's story follows a move away from trying to manage everything outside herself and toward building safety from within. The early stretch leans on community updates and event housekeeping, but once the conversation settles, the focus sharpens on business pressure,…
A practical discussion of regression, stress, and self-awareness in marriage.
Sexy Marriage Radio uses a marriage conversation to test Dr. Schnarch's idea of regression, moving between a steady drift and sharper spikes in functioning.
A reflective conversation about desire, responsibility, and what makes someone worth wanting.
This conversation treats wanting to be wanted as a marriage problem, but one that reaches beyond any single couple. It keeps circling the higher-desire spouse's role, and the hard part is easy to see: blame can arrive faster than self-examination.
A frank marriage conversation that links intimacy with responsibility, health, and pacing.
Sexy Marriage Radio keeps the focus on the mistakes people make and ties intimacy to ordinary responsibility, care, and follow-through. It treats body, mind, and spirit as part of the same conversation, then moves through healthspan, prayer, discipline, and the daily habits that…
A frank sex-and-marriage conversation about desire, openness, and the ways couples can get in their own way.
This vault episode leans on listener mail to dig into how couples can get in their own way and make marriage and sex harder than they need to be. The strongest stretch follows a wife who has found some freedom in exploring masturbation with her spouse.
Pastoral sermons for healing, faith, and release.
Faithful steps for God-shaped dreams.
Christian marriage counsel with prayerful accountability.
Christian steadiness for unsettled news and cultural life.
This episode revisits a conversation with Dr.
This episode discusses a listener's question about implementing a 'sex for rewards' challenge in marriage to increase sexual frequency, exploring its potential benefits and pitfalls.
This episode discusses cringeworthy marriage advice found on TikTok, exploring why such advice often fails and how conflict in relationships can lead to meaningful growth.
This impromptu episode discusses how believers can lose track of important priorities in life and marriage, emphasizing self-reflection over blaming others.
This episode explores the concept of mind mapping in marriage and sex, drawing from an upcoming book to discuss its theory, application, and pitfalls.
A wife seeks advice on addressing her husband's lack of effort in their marriage despite her own improvements, highlighting issues like intimacy, health, and emotional distance.
The hosts discuss holiday gift-giving and introduce their annual tradition of choosing three words instead of New Year's resolutions to guide the upcoming year.
The hosts discuss shifting perspectives on family dynamics when children leave home, emphasizing that parents become extended family as adult children create their own traditions and systems.
This episode discusses how to teach children and adult children the concept of differentiation and maturity in handling themselves rather than controlling situations.
This episode introduces a new seven-day challenge targeting how higher-desire partners can improve their approach to intimacy and connection in marriage.
This episode addresses a husband's email about feeling he does most of the initiating in his marriage's sexual relationship, offering advice for both higher and lower desire partners.
The hosts respond to a listener's request for advice on helping their adult children navigate dating and engagement by discussing the need for premarital guidance on topics like conflict, sex, and money.
The host celebrates the 14th anniversary of Sexy Marriage Radio, expressing gratitude to listeners and reflecting on the podcast's role as a trusted resource for marriage advice and community support.
A solo episode addressing a military husband's struggles with discussing masturbation and sexual performance issues with his wife during periods of separation.
This episode explores the difference between love as an emotion versus love in action within marriage, addressing why couples often settle for knowing their partner loves them without seeing corresponding behaviors.
This episode introduces a seven-day sexual energy challenge focused on cultivating sustainable erotic connection in marriage through grown-up differentiation and personal ownership.
A wife shares her struggle with achieving orgasms and increased libido after menopause, seeking advice on navigating these changes in her marriage and sex life.
This episode offers a holiday survival guide for couples, focusing on maintaining teamwork and managing pressures during the festive season.
A wife shares her struggle with automatically placating her husband during conflicts due to childhood emotional immaturity, seeking advice on breaking this harmful communication cycle in their 17-year marriage.
This episode addresses a listener's email about a wife's struggle with vaginismus and orgasmic dysfunction, offering advice for improving sexual intimacy in marriage.
This episode addresses how to have age-appropriate conversations about sex with children, based on a listener's voicemail, while also announcing a break from their annual marriage getaway in 2026.
This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio announces a seven-day challenge for higher desire spouses to improve their approach to intimacy and discusses an email from a husband in a long-term marriage struggling with desire differences.
This episode addresses a listener's email about sexual incompatibility and boundary violations in her relationship, where her partner prefers rough porn-style sex while she seeks intimacy, leading to discomfort and feelings of violation.
This episode explores covert contracts in marriage, where unspoken expectations like doing chores to get sex lead to frustration and resentment, using a listener's email as a case study.
This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio discusses how conflict can strengthen a marriage by analyzing a listener's email about family conflict and applying the four points of balance concept.
A podcast episode addresses a wife's concern about her husband's lack of motivation to get healthy for sex, exploring the emotional and relational impacts.
This episode explores how vacations can create relational resets for married couples and discusses ways to apply vacation dynamics to everyday life.
This episode explores how personal sexual fantasies and practices, while individually owned, have shared impacts on relationships.
This episode explores how individuals often outsource their sexual desire to their spouse, discussing the pitfalls of this dynamic and offering practical advice on how to take ownership of one's desires without creating pressure or awkwardness.
This best-of episode of Sexy Marriage Radio features Francie Winslow discussing reclaiming women's sexuality, with the hosts sharing personal updates about family loss and gratitude for listener support.
The host reflects on the Sexy Marriage Radio community's growth and support, shares housekeeping notes about the podcast schedule, and introduces the upcoming New Year's episode focusing on three-word resolutions instead of traditional goals.
The hosts discuss common marriage advice phrases that seem true but are actually unhelpful, inviting listeners to share their own examples.
This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio addresses grief and loss through two listener emails: one from a young widow navigating dating and intimacy after her husband's death, and another about infertility struggles.
This episode explores how partners in marriage can weaponize the natural dynamic of differing sexual desires to control or manipulate the relationship.
This episode revisits a popular discussion on improving oral sex in marriage by focusing on emotional connection, self-awareness, and care rather than technique.
A father and his 20-year-old daughter have a casual conversation about relationships from their different generational perspectives.
The hosts explore Dr.
The hosts discuss a listener's email about feeling used for sex only during his wife's ovulation, exploring the differences between biological desire and emotional connection.
This episode addresses a wife's email about her recent inability to orgasm with her husband due to a medical condition called lichen planus of the vulva, exploring how masturbation might affect intimacy in their marriage.
The hosts explore the universal desire to be wanted in marriage, discussing how it differs from being needed and the dynamics of higher and lower desire spouses.
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Corey and Pam discuss common mistakes couples make in their sex lives, covering topics like pursuit patterns, communication, self-care, and sexual techniques.
The hosts explore how focusing too much on initiating sex can lead to mechanical encounters and lower desire, advocating for a more present, connected approach throughout the entire sexual arc.
This episode features therapist Jennifer Finlayson-Fife discussing obligation sex in marriage, exploring nuances between obligation and desire-based intimacy, the impact of gender stereotypes, and practical steps for personal growth in relationships.
Ann calls in to discuss why her husband, a recovering porn addict, gets no pleasure from her sexual pleasure, exploring how his past influences their intimacy.
The hosts discuss an email from a husband whose wife's partial hysterectomy and menopause have led to excessive lubrication during sex, causing him to lose friction and his erection.
The hosts critique Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages, arguing that while helpful as preferences, they become problematic when weaponized in marriage.
This episode revisits past topics, including mutual masturbation as a tool for intimacy, the distinction between sexual thoughts and lust, and advice for a husband dealing with his wife's affair.
Hosts conduct a live sex quiz with audience participation at their getaway event, covering 15 questions about anatomy, statistics, and sexual health.
Marni Battista discusses her book 'Radical Living', sharing how she overcame blaming her husband and fear of change to redesign her marriage using design thinking principles.
The hosts discuss listener emails and promote a new sponsor product for enhancing marital intimacy.
A husband writes in about recurring dry spells in his 25-year marriage, and the hosts discuss the pattern of avoiding conversation during those times.
A husband shares his struggle with low testosterone and his wife's perimenopause, and how hormone therapy improved their sex life but introduced new challenges.
An episode discussing the dynamics of a higher desire wife and its impact on the husband, featuring an interview with Jay Parker.
A couple discusses a giveaway for their marriage getaway and takes a call from a higher desire wife seeking to feel desired.
The hosts promote their upcoming marriage getaway event and a giveaway for listeners who leave an Apple Podcasts review.
The hosts celebrate their 700th episode and discuss differing views on non-sexual versus sexual touch in marriage.
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The host uses an old Chinese proverb about a farmer's changing fortunes to illustrate how couples should avoid jumping to conclusions and instead adopt a patient, open-minded perspective in marriage.
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