Ownit! Powercast

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Fear, boundaries, and steadier choices.

The gist

Ownit! Powercast is a personal growth show led by Mary Baker, with solo coaching episodes and interviews. It focuses on fear-based reactions, communication patterns, boundaries, and the slow work of making choices from steadier ground.

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About Ownit! Powercast

Ownit! Powercast is a steady personal growth show for people who know their reactions make sense, but also know those reactions are starting to cost them. Mary Baker centers the show on fear, communication, boundaries, nervous-system patterns, and the work of choosing differently after automatic self-protection. The episodes are practical rather than abstract. A typical thread might begin with over-explaining, saying yes too quickly, shutting down in conversation, or feeling guilty for having a need at all. Baker then slows the moment down. What is fear doing here? What belongs to the other person? What is the cleanest part for the listener to own? That patient reframing is the show's signature strength. It returns often to the difference between a need and a demand, between self-care and selfishness, and between being respectful and over-accommodating someone else's discomfort. The tone is warm, but not soft in a vague way. It can be blunt about manipulation, control, unhealthy communication, and relationships where patience is not enough. Recent episodes focus on moving from fear to forward motion, recognizing fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses, and building enough pause to choose rather than react. The show also gives special attention to situations where ordinary advice can fail, including divorce, custody pressure, and relationships that stay charged long after they should have cooled. Interviews widen the frame without changing the core. Doug Fleener brings a story of addiction, rebuilding, and using a simple what-if pivot to create practical change. Christine Roslund brings EMDR coaching, emotional work, and the idea of letting go of old pain or limiting beliefs. Kristen Crabtree appears in a conversation about reconnecting with a more authentic inner voice. Through all of it, Ownit! Powercast keeps returning to agency. It treats growth as repeated practice, not a breakthrough slogan. Its best fit is the listener who wants language for what has been happening inside them and a grounded way to respond next time.

Made for: For listeners working through fear-based reactions, over-explaining, boundary guilt, or relationship stress. It suits people who want warm coaching language with concrete emotional tools.

What sets it apart: The show stands out for translating therapy-adjacent concepts into everyday relationship decisions, especially the pause between being triggered and choosing a response. Its repeated reframes make difficult ideas feel usable rather than merely insightful.

In their own words

The Own It! Powercast is all about personal growth. It's about taking time to learn, grow and change, with You in the driver's seat. Life coach, counselor and teacher Mary Baker will walk you through the necessary ingredients to have great self-confidence, live with purpose and on purpose, and finally start to love your life. This is a show about taking charge of your personal growth, and about taking your fear and turning it into powerful choices that will create sustained changes. Finally understand what's been in your way all along, and the tools you need to get to where you want to be. So if you're serious about transforming your relationships with yourself and others, then this is the p…

As heard by us

Based on 5 episodes we listened to · September 2026

Mary Baker connects emotional survival habits to everyday boundaries, giving listeners practical language for needs, fear and difficult reactions.

Ownit! Powercast turns difficult emotional patterns into decisions a listener can examine in daily life. Mary Baker usually works in direct-address mode, tracing how fear, childhood instability, shame and external validation can shape adult reactions.

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Why you'd press play

Someone gets defensive; Mary Baker asks which part of that reaction is actually yours.

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  • to understand why asking for what you need can feel risky long after childhood
  • to tell a boundary from an attempt to manage someone else's response
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EP326 When Fear Isn't in Charge AnymoreApr 1, 2026

A grounded look at pausing before fear turns anxiety, urgency, or someone else's reaction into a decision.

Fear is framed here as a habit that can quietly take over decision-making, especially when someone else's urgency, defensiveness, misunderstanding, or disappointment starts setting the pace.

EP320: Why Negotiating Needs Feels So Hard (And What It Reveals About Your Boundaries)Feb 3, 2026

A grounded look at why asking for care can feel risky, and how boundaries return responsibility to the person asking.

Mary Baker traces the fear of asking for needs back to an early lesson: care seemed to arrive when someone was helpful, compliant, successful, or easy to manage.

EP319: When Divorce Isn't Just Divorce: How Control Masquerades as ConflictJan 27, 2026

A grounded look at divorce conflict that may be about control as much as disagreement.

Episode 319 treats divorce conflict as something that can remain active long after separation, especially when legal process becomes another place where control plays out.

EP228 Listen to Yourself: A Guide to Uncovering Your Emotional Needs

Mary Baker connects emotional disconnection to survival habits and gently opens the work of naming needs.

Emotional needs can be hard to notice when someone has learned to stay safe by reading others, staying productive, chasing approval, or trying to get everything right.

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Episodes

  1. 1

    EP287 Why Courage Doesn't Work Without Connection

    ·22m
  2. 2

    EP325 Hearing Your Own Voice Again How to Reconnect with Real You Interview with Kristen Crabtree

    ·51m
  3. 3

    EP324 Start with What If: The Simplest Way to Create Immediate Practical Change: Interview with Doug Fleener

    ·49m
  4. 4

    EP323 Your Brain on Fear: Why You React Before You Think

    ·31m
  5. 5

    EP322: Real Communication: Regulated, Respectful, and Responsible

    ·28m
  6. 6

    EP321: Detachment and Choice: Why Over Explaining and People Pleasing Aren't Communication

    ·20m
  7. 7

    EP320: Why Negotiating Needs Feels So Hard (And What It Reveals About Your Boundaries)

    ·22m
  8. 8

    EP319: When Divorce Isn't Just Divorce: How Control Masquerades as Conflict

    ·53m
  9. 9

    EP318: Letting Go So You Don't Lose Yourself

    ·22m
  10. 10

    EP317: Healthy Boundaries for a New Year

    ·21m
  11. 11

    EP316: Why January Can Feel Harder Than It Should

    ·29m
  12. 12

    EP315: Your Holiday Bill of Rights

    ·21m
  13. 13

    EP314: Holiday Self Care Begins with Telling Yourself the Truth

    ·22m
  14. 14

    EP313 From the Vault EP191 Real Self-Care Means Following Through

    ·23m
  15. 15

    EP312: Boundaries, Family Dynamics, and Staying Sane at Thanksgiving

    ·25m
  16. 16

    EP311 Boundaries and Reality: Letting Go of Fantasy Facing What's True

    ·29m
  17. 17

    EP310 Boundaries in Words: How Clear Communication Changes Everything

    ·24m
  18. 18

    EP309: The Paradigm Shift: Why Boundary Work Feels So Uncomfortable at First

    ·27m
  19. 19

    EP308: When Fear Keeps You Frozen and What Helps You Thaw

    ·23m
  20. 20

    EP307 The Season of Brave Choosing Growth Over Comfort

    ·22m
  21. 21

    EP306: Facing the Mirror: What We Don't Want to Admit

    ·23m
  22. 22

    EP305: Gentle Questions for Your Growth Journey

    ·25m
  23. 23

    EP304: Relationship Q&A The Struggles We Don't Talk About Enough

    ·22m
  24. 24

    EP303: The Thin Line Between Support and Control

    ·22m
  25. 25

    EP302: Spotting Subtle Red Flags: The Behaviors That Slowly Wear You Down

    ·29m
  26. 26

    EP301: Waking People Up with Positivity: Interview with Jimmy Warr-Mize

    ·50m
  27. 27

    EP300 Learning to Be with Our Feelings Again with Claire Garner

    ·57m
  28. 28

    EP298: When Safe Doesn't Feel Emotionally Safe: What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You

    ·25m
  29. 29

    EP297: Can I Trust Me to Show Up?

    ·21m
  30. 30

    EP294: Where Did You Go? The Moment You Started Leaving Yourself Behind

    ·27m
  31. 31

    EP293: Learning to Stay: Mindfulness, Healing, and Emotional Resilience with Derek Lakin

    ·39m
  32. 32

    EP292: Letting Go to Move Ahead: EMDR Coaching for Life Change Conversation with Coach Christine Roslund

    ·42m
  33. 33

    EP291: Staying With Yourself When You Want to Run

    ·25m
  34. 34

    EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies

    ·29m
  35. 35

    EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You

    ·19m
  36. 36

    EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make

    ·18m
  37. 37

    EP326 When Fear Isn't in Charge Anymore

    ·28m
  38. 38

    EP286 This Is a Boundary Too: The Small Daily Choices That Set the Tone for Your Life

    ·18m
  39. 39

    EP285: Is It a Confidence Issue? Sue Reid Shares What to Look For

    ·36m
  40. 40

    EP284 Finding Your Center When the World Feels Like It's Spinning

    ·31m
  41. 41

    EP283 You're Not Broken—You're in a Loop

    ·22m
  42. 42

    EP282: Feeling Like You're Too Much or Not Enough? That's Shame Talking

    ·26m
  43. 43

    EP281: When Growth Creates Distance: Navigating Relationships as You Evolve

    ·24m
  44. 44

    EP280: Are You Waiting for Change That's Never Coming?

    ·28m
  45. 45

    EP279: Who Owns What? How Boundaries Create Real Trust and Emotional Safety

    ·28m
  46. 46

    EP278 Is It Love or Denial? How We Trick Ourselves into Ignoring the Truth

    ·21m
  47. 47

    EP277 Wait…Am I the Problem? The Boundary Issues We Don't See in Ourselves

    ·29m
  48. 48

    EP276 Boundaries or Control? The Subtle Ways We Get It Wrong in Conversations

    ·29m
  49. 49

    EP275 The Power of Decisions: Trusting Yourself and Living Your Why

    ·24m
  50. 50

    EP274 What We Allow Shapes Who We Become: Boundaries, Self Trust and Confidence

    ·29m
  51. 51

    EP273 Little Moments Big Impact: Reconnecting with Your Authentic Self

    ·22m
  52. 52

    EP272 When Life Knocks You Down: How Setbacks Shape Self- Confidence

    ·28m
  53. 53

    EP271 What Happens When You Finally Believe You're Worthy

    ·23m
  54. 54

    EP270 Spotting People Pleasing Moments a 3 Step Process

    ·29m
  55. 55

    EP269 The Quiet Chaos: How Unhealthy People Fuel Anxiety

    ·26m
  56. 56

    EP247 Embracing Vulnerability and Intimacy Through Boundaries

    ·30m
  57. 57

    EP268 Letting Go of Guilt: Embracing Detachment for Your Own Well-Being

    ·35m
  58. 58

    EP267 Facing the Fear: Letting Go of Outcomes When the Stakes are High

    ·24m
  59. 59

    EP266 Trust Matters How to Find People You Can Really Count On

    ·30m
  60. 60

    EP265 When Trust is Twisted: The Long-Term Impact of Manipulative Relationships

    ·34m
  61. 61

    EP264 Self Sabotage to Self-Respect: The Boundaries We Set with Ourselves

    ·29m
  62. 62

    EP263 Gracious Assertion Mastering Embedded Boundaries

    ·32m
  63. 63

    EP262 Boundaries that Work Keeping Your Focus on What Matters Most

    ·31m
  64. 64

    EP261 The Journey to Self-Love: Overcoming the Fear of Prioritizing Yourself

    ·33m
  65. 65

    EP260 Authenticity in Action: How to Truly Show Up in Your Relationships

    ·28m
  66. 66

    EP259 Assessing Your Emotional Honesty Are You True to Yourself

    ·29m
  67. 67

    EP258 The People Pleasing Trap Childhood Roots of Avoidance and Emotional Dishonesty

    ·24m
  68. 68

    EP257 Avoiding Our Feelings: Why We Stay Busy and Anxious

    ·17m
  69. 69

    EP256 Boundaries and Balance: Your Daily Checklist for Self-Care

    ·34m
  70. 70

    EP255 The Company We Keep: Consequences of Surrounding Ourselves with the Wrong People

    ·28m
  71. 71

    EP254 Healing Childhood Trauma While Parenting with Emily Cleghorn

    ·42m
  72. 72

    EP253 In This Together Men's Groups and Their Empowering Influence Interview with Jason Lange

    ·48m
  73. 73

    EP252 Living Authentically: The Power of Boundaries and Integrity

    ·22m
  74. 74

    EP251 Finding Safe Relationships Recognizing the Telltale Signs of Healthy Boundaries

    ·31m
  75. 75

    EP250 Navigating Toxic Terrain Understanding the Eggshell Creators

    ·30m
  76. 76

    EP249 Navigating Emotional Minefields How Childhood Experiences Shape Fear in Relationships

    ·32m
  77. 77

    EP248 Flight or Fight How Childhood Coping Influences Adult Boundaries

    ·28m
  78. 78

    EP245: The Path to Healthy Boundaries: Understanding Detachment and Grieving

    ·31m
  79. 79

    EP246 Brave Boundaries: Tools for Managing Fear in Assertiveness

    ·35m
  80. 80

    EP244 Boundaries Mean Freedom: Confronting Our Fear of Letting Go

    ·29m
  81. 81

    EP243 Fear's Grip: Escaping the Chains of Doubt

    ·25m
  82. 82

    EP242: Trusting Your Inner Compass

    ·28m
  83. 83

    EP241 Who Made the Moment Unsafe for You?

    ·30m
  84. 84

    EP240 Paying the Price Unraveling the Cost of Disowned Anger

    ·33m
  85. 85

    EP239 From Seeking Approval to Self-Love: A Journey Within

    ·31m
  86. 86

    EP238 Unveiling Shame: Understanding the Silent Struggles

    ·31m
  87. 87

    EP237 Paying the Price: Confronting the Consequences of Avoidance

    ·29m
  88. 88

    EP235 Pressing the Reset Button: Releasing What Doesn't Serve You

    ·28m
  89. 89

    EP234 Breaking Point Confronting What You Tolerate for True Happiness

    ·27m
  90. 90

    EP233 Part II: The Chaos - Exploring How Your Family Shaped your Boundaries

    ·28m
  91. 91

    EP232 Why It's So Hard: Exploring How Your Family Shaped your Boundaries Part 1

    ·32m
  92. 92

    EP231 Roots of Self: Unmet Childhood Needs and the Impact on Self Concept

    ·35m
  93. 93

    EP230 Gratitude Without Guilt: Setting Thanksgiving Boundaries for Self-Care

    ·27m
  94. 94

    EP229 The Power of I Expressing Needs Without Apology

    ·30m
  95. 95

    EP227:Embracing Authenticity: A Guide to Healthy Needs and Vulnerability

    ·37m
  96. 96

    EP226: Why Recognizing Your Needs is a Game-Changer

    ·34m
  97. 97

    EP236 Don't Make It Yours: How to Detach from Others' Reactions

    Hidden gem

    Own It PowerCast episode 236, "Don't Make It Yours: How to Detach from Others' Reactions," focuses on emotional detachment from other people's reactions.

    ·29m·2 clips
  98. 98

    EP296: Are You Still in Survival Mode? How to Know—and How to Shift

    Mary Baker explains how to recognize if you're stuck in survival mode and offers guidance on shifting out of it by healing your nervous system.

    ·23m
  99. 99

    EP295: How to Rebuild Self Trust (Even if You've Betrayed Yourself Before)

    Mary Baker discusses how to rebuild self-trust after betraying yourself through people-pleasing and ignoring your gut, focusing on small daily acts of loyalty to yourself.

    ·24m
  100. 100

    EP228 Listen to Yourself: A Guide to Uncovering Your Emotional Needs

    Hidden gem

    Mary Baker’s Ownit!

    ·38m·2 clips
  101. 101

    EP326 When Fear Isn't in Charge Anymore

    Hidden gem

    Mary Baker's episode 326, "When Fear Isn't in Charge Anymore," closes a month of "fear to forward" teaching by contrasting reaction and choice.

    Apr 1, 2026·28m·1 clip
  102. 102

    EP325 Hearing Your Own Voice Again How to Reconnect with Real You Interview with Kristen Crabtree

    Mary Baker interviews Kristen Crabtree about how to reconnect with your authentic self by interrupting fear-based thinking.

    Mar 25, 2026·51m
  103. 103

    EP324 Start with What If: The Simplest Way to Create Immediate Practical Change: Interview with Doug Fleener

    Mary Baker interviews Doug Fleener about his book 'Start with What If' and how small shifts can create immediate practical change.

    Mar 10, 2026·49m
  104. 104

    EP323 Your Brain on Fear: Why You React Before You Think

    Mary Baker introduces a month-long series on transforming fear into forward momentum by understanding and interrupting the brain's survival responses.

    Mar 3, 2026·31m
  105. 105

    EP322: Real Communication: Regulated, Respectful, and Responsible

    Mary Baker discusses the importance of emotional maturity in communication for healthy relationships, contrasting it with conflict avoidance.

    Feb 25, 2026·28m
  106. 106

    EP321: Detachment and Choice: Why Over Explaining and People Pleasing Aren't Communication

    Feb 18, 2026·20m
  107. 107

    EP320: Why Negotiating Needs Feels So Hard (And What It Reveals About Your Boundaries)

    Hidden gem

    A boundary clarifies what you will do, while a demand tries to control someone else.

    Feb 3, 2026·22m·1 clip
  108. 108

    EP319: When Divorce Isn't Just Divorce: How Control Masquerades as Conflict

    Hidden gem

    Lisa Johnson explains why "the parenting plan is like your constitution" when an ex ignores support orders.

    Jan 27, 2026·53m·2 clips
  109. 109

    EP318: Letting Go So You Don't Lose Yourself

    Jan 20, 2026·22m
  110. 110

    EP317: Healthy Boundaries for a New Year

    Jan 13, 2026·21m
  111. 111

    EP316: Why January Can Feel Harder Than It Should

    Jan 6, 2026·29m
  112. 112

    EP315: Your Holiday Bill of Rights

    Dec 16, 2025·21m
  113. 113

    EP314: Holiday Self Care Begins with Telling Yourself the Truth

    Dec 10, 2025·22m
  114. 114

    EP313 From the Vault EP191 Real Self-Care Means Following Through

    Dec 2, 2025·23m
  115. 115

    EP312: Boundaries, Family Dynamics, and Staying Sane at Thanksgiving

    Nov 25, 2025·25m
  116. 116

    EP311 Boundaries and Reality: Letting Go of Fantasy Facing What's True

    Nov 18, 2025·29m
  117. 117

    EP310 Boundaries in Words: How Clear Communication Changes Everything

    Nov 12, 2025·24m
  118. 118

    EP309: The Paradigm Shift: Why Boundary Work Feels So Uncomfortable at First

    Nov 4, 2025·27m
  119. 119

    EP308: When Fear Keeps You Frozen and What Helps You Thaw

    Oct 22, 2025·23m
  120. 120

    EP307 The Season of Brave Choosing Growth Over Comfort

    Oct 14, 2025·22m
  121. 121

    EP306: Facing the Mirror: What We Don't Want to Admit

    Sep 30, 2025·23m
  122. 122

    EP305: Gentle Questions for Your Growth Journey

    Sep 23, 2025·25m
  123. 123

    EP304: Relationship Q&A The Struggles We Don't Talk About Enough

    Sep 16, 2025·22m
  124. 124

    EP303: The Thin Line Between Support and Control

    Sep 9, 2025·22m
  125. 125

    EP302: Spotting Subtle Red Flags: The Behaviors That Slowly Wear You Down

    Sep 2, 2025·29m
  126. 126

    EP301: Waking People Up with Positivity: Interview with Jimmy Warr-Mize

    Aug 19, 2025·50m
  127. 127

    EP300 Learning to Be with Our Feelings Again with Claire Garner

    Aug 5, 2025·57m
  128. 128

    EP298: When Safe Doesn't Feel Emotionally Safe: What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You

    Jul 29, 2025·25m
  129. 129

    EP297: Can I Trust Me to Show Up?

    Jul 22, 2025·21m
  130. 130

    EP296: Are You Still in Survival Mode? How to Know—and How to Shift

    Jul 15, 2025·23m
  131. 131

    EP295: How to Rebuild Self Trust (Even if You've Betrayed Yourself Before)

    Jul 8, 2025·24m
  132. 132

    EP294: Where Did You Go? The Moment You Started Leaving Yourself Behind

    Jul 1, 2025·27m
  133. 133

    EP293: Learning to Stay: Mindfulness, Healing, and Emotional Resilience with Derek Lakin

    Jun 24, 2025·39m
  134. 134

    EP292: Letting Go to Move Ahead: EMDR Coaching for Life Change Conversation with Coach Christine Roslund

    Mary Baker interviews coach and EMDR practitioner Christine Roslund about using EMDR and coaching to help people let go of old pain and limiting beliefs to create life change.

    Jun 17, 2025·42m
  135. 135

    EP291: Staying With Yourself When You Want to Run

    Mary Baker explores how trauma and chronic stress lead to disconnection and survival mode, and introduces a month-long theme of reclaiming inner safety to stay connected to oneself.

    Jun 10, 2025·25m
  136. 136

    EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies

    Jun 3, 2025·29m
  137. 137

    EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You

    May 27, 2025·19m
  138. 138

    EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make

    May 13, 2025·18m
  139. 139

    EP287 Why Courage Doesn't Work Without Connection

    Mary Baker challenges the belief that courage is a solo act, arguing that true courage requires connection and support from others.

    May 6, 2025·22m
  140. 140

    EP286 This Is a Boundary Too: The Small Daily Choices That Set the Tone for Your Life

    Apr 29, 2025·18m
  141. 141

    EP285: Is It a Confidence Issue? Sue Reid Shares What to Look For

    Apr 15, 2025·36m
  142. 142

    EP284 Finding Your Center When the World Feels Like It's Spinning

    Apr 8, 2025·31m
  143. 143

    EP283 You're Not Broken—You're in a Loop

    Apr 1, 2025·22m
  144. 144

    EP282: Feeling Like You're Too Much or Not Enough? That's Shame Talking

    Mar 25, 2025·26m
  145. 145

    EP281: When Growth Creates Distance: Navigating Relationships as You Evolve

    Mar 11, 2025·24m
  146. 146

    EP280: Are You Waiting for Change That's Never Coming?

    Mar 4, 2025·28m
  147. 147

    EP279: Who Owns What? How Boundaries Create Real Trust and Emotional Safety

    Feb 25, 2025·28m
  148. 148

    EP278 Is It Love or Denial? How We Trick Ourselves into Ignoring the Truth

    Feb 18, 2025·21m
  149. 149

    EP277 Wait…Am I the Problem? The Boundary Issues We Don't See in Ourselves

    Feb 11, 2025·29m
  150. 150

    EP276 Boundaries or Control? The Subtle Ways We Get It Wrong in Conversations

    Feb 4, 2025·29m