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Whose Turn Is It? From Love Letters

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Kara's husband Brian retorts, 'Then you should have fucking married a dentist,' sparking a fight about money and career dreams.
This episode of Love Letters explores how couples navigate money, career dreams, and compromise through interviews with writer Kara Baskin and financial therapist Sade Soares. It delves into tensions over financial security, emotional labor, and the concept of 'whose turn' it is to pursue personal goals within a partnership.

As heard by us

A candid look at how love, money, and ambition keep asking for the same calendar.

Meredith Goldstein frames this episode around a simple but uncomfortable question: who gets room to chase a book, and who ends up carrying the cost?

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Why you'd press play

Press play if you keep negotiating whose ambition gets the next turn.

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