Por el Placer de Vivir con el Dr. Cesar Lozano · Uforia Podcasts

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April 12, 2026·18 min·1 clip
Dr. César Lozano explains why starting a relationship from emotional lack, like possessiveness or fear of abandonment, leads to inevitable conflict.
The episode begins with Dr. César Lozano debunking the 'happily ever after' fairy tale narrative, stating that conflict is normal in relationships. He argues that entering a relationship from emotional imbalance—such as being possessive, controlling, or fearful of abandonment—leads to suffering. The show then takes a call from Nabil, who reveals she has been happily married for 40 years. Nabil discusses her communication strategy of staying silent during arguments and revisiting issues later when calm. She also raises a common grievance among her female friends: why men often forget anniversaries but never forget financial matters like debts. Dr. Lozano responds that men sometimes don't prioritize what women find significant, though he acknowledges anniversaries are important. After a break, therapist Mónica Venegas joins the conversation. She states there are only two ways to relate: from self-love or from emotional imbalance. Venegas then lists four signals that someone is relating from lack. The first is getting overly invested too quickly, like downloading a baby photo app after just two dates. The second is experiencing extreme disappointment when things don't work out early on. The third is feeling high anxiety when the person isn't present. The fourth is obsessively thinking about the person all day. Venegas advises listeners to use their head more than their heart when getting to know someone. She also suggests that if someone hasn't asked to be exclusive, they're likely seeing other people, and you should do the same for comparison. The episode concludes with Dr. Lozano thanking Venegas and directing listeners to her social media.
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