Parenting Tips: Young Dad Podcast · Jey Young

253: The Hidden Impact of Divorce on Adults- Kent D.

·1 hr 3 min·4 clips

Ken cites Beverly and Tom Rogers' GIFT acronym: guilt, inadequacy, inferiority, fear, or trauma.

1. Parenting Tips: Young Dad Podcast centers on Kent D. and the hidden impact of divorce on adults. 2. Kent D. is a licensed counselor, founder of Adult with Divorced Parents Ministries, and author of Choose a Better Path. 3. The episode asks what divorce does to adults who grew up in it, and why gray divorce can be harder than people expect. 4. Kent says his parents divorced when he was 13, and he went from seeing his dad every day to seeing him three or four times a year. 5. He says he thought he was fine, until a marriage retreat and later research showed him the divorce was still affecting his anger. 6. Kent says his ministry is not about bashing divorced parents, and he cites the command to honor father and mother. 7. Jay connects the topic to the long-term impact on kids who grow into parents, spouses, and coworkers. 8. Kent says adults with divorced parents often repeat patterns across relationships, including friendships, business, church, and marriage. 9. He says the biggest issue for adult children of divorce is anger, and he links it to losses like routine, friends, sports, and family sides. 10. Kent describes the loyalty challenge with a band concert example where a child must choose which parent to sit with. 11. He says that unresolved anger can show up later as behavior in school, work, or marriage without the person knowing why. 12. Kent quotes Beverly and Tom Rogers on the GIFT acronym: guilt, inadequacy, inferiority, fear, or trauma. 13. He says men often show anger when they feel inadequate or inferior, not because anger is the first emotion. 14. Jay adds a developmental psychology lens and says anger is usually secondary to an unmet need or earlier hurt. 15. Kent says divorce is second only to the death of a spouse in emotional trauma, which is why parents and kids can both be in a tailspin. 16. He says gray divorce intensifies the loyalty challenge because adult children are expected to understand the parents' reasons. 17. The format is a conversational interview with Jay giving personal reflections and Kent answering with counseling examples and research language. 18. The energy is direct and personal, with Jay often relating the topic to family dynamics and adult children. 19. Best for adults from divorced homes, co-parents, and young dads. 20. Skip it if you want a light parenting chat with no heavy family history.

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A plainspoken conversation about how childhood divorce can echo into adulthood.

This conversation looks at how childhood divorce can spill into adult relationships, parenting, and self worth. Ken, a licensed counselor and founder of Adult with Divorced Parents Ministries, treats the subject in straightforward terms, and the host keeps pulling it back to how…

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