第六季精選回顧 (2025)｜真的假的? 【離婚後】沒做這件事會諸事不順? feat. 胡咪&Vito大叔

April 10, 2026·23 min·2 clips

胡咪 reveals that after her divorce, her ex-mother-in-law insisted on listing her in funeral documents because she hadn't performed 'cí zǔ'.

The episode begins with host 路隊長 introducing the show and the guests, 胡咪 and Vito大叔, who are promoting 胡咪's new book '分手的99個理由'. The discussion quickly turns to a specific topic from the book: the traditional ritual known as 'cí zǔ' (辭祖). 胡咪 explains that after her divorce, her ex-mother-in-law called to say her father-in-law had passed away and wanted to include 胡咪's name in the funeral documents, as she was still considered part of the family ancestrally because she hadn't performed 'cí zǔ'. This leads to an exploration of what 'cí zǔ' is: a ritual where a woman who has married into a family (and thus joined its ancestral lineage) formally notifies the ancestors upon divorce that she is leaving. 胡咪 notes that many people online have similar experiences. The hosts discuss how, in traditional customs, women upon marriage become part of the husband's family lineage, '死是他們家的魂'. 胡咪 shares a personal revelation: she once saw her family's ancestral tablet and noticed only male names were listed; she was told women's names aren't included because they 'marry out'. This segues into broader gender issues in traditions, such as unmarried women being relegated to '姑娘祠' (a collective shrine for single women) rather than being worshipped by their natal families. Vito大叔 reads from a temple's online service description, which claims that without 'cí zǔ', divorced women may face interference from the ex-husband's ancestors, leading to relationship, career, health, and financial problems. The hosts critique this as fear-mongering and note the double standard: men are never told they need such rituals after divorce. 胡咪 describes actually going through with the 'cí zǔ' ritual at a temple, where she had to provide details like her ex-husband's name and grave location. She reframes the experience not as appeasing threatening ancestors, but as a personal 'thank you and goodbye' ceremony for closure. The conversation expands to how such traditions can create '限制性信念' (limiting beliefs), where people blame post-divorce struggles on not performing rituals rather than on natural emotional low points. Vito大叔 reflects on his own growth, initially seeing 胡咪 as 'too feminist' but coming to understand her points about gender equality. They discuss other examples of gender bias in traditions, like the pressure to have sons for ancestral worship ('不孝有三, 無後為大') and the movie '破地獄' which explores why Taoist rituals are passed only to men. The episode concludes with a reflective question for listeners: whether they've ever let traditional customs make them question their self-worth. The guests share where to find them online and promote 胡咪's book and their podcast '分手的99個理由'.

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